Apology For The Female Pleasure

We will explore, during this article, some of through "unconscious sexual collective" and will see how female sexuality can become dull, even unpleasant, or on the contrary abnormally unslung, when a certain number of unconscious factors arise in the psychic representations of the woman and the man.

It is not question of making here lawsuit of one or other of the sexes, because any generalization in this field would be a coarse error, but rather to give in prospect in a clear and sometimes explicit way the responsibilities for each one in the representation and the practice of sexuality. The goal first of this article is, in this direction, to give elements so that the people annoyed with sexuality find the hope of a healthy access of the sexual thing.

The archetypal man seen by feminism

We will begin this talk with a small analysis of the unconscious current female collective, that of the women of generation 65-80 . This unconscious collective starts with an archetypal vision of the man which has the good taste to be the intersection between the feminist representation of the man like "assoiffée animal of sex" and the representation of the generation of the parents of the "babies boomers" of the man "who goes to the whores and the bar as soon as it has three pennies".

The archetypal man is seen by the feminist eye like the "male". Caricatured to the extreme, the man is represented like a "machine with kissing", to take again the expression, quite disturbing, because of eating - symbolically "to fill" - and of the "stomach" - sex - the men are represented as worried mainly by eating and making love. Moreover, the common manner for the man to make love, it, is also represented in a caricatural way in the feminist vision like the act aiming at "emptying" the testicles, not to employ other coarser formulas.

The man must make love "to relieve himself", which explains the pressure that the men continuously exert on the women for obtaining their sexual favors. The woman is obliged, in this mode of representations, to transform itself into a sex object allowing the man to appease her lowest impulses, this last becoming absent since the "belly" or the "stomach" is not concerned any more (education of the children, tasks domestic, etc). The man is seen like a "animal".

This archetypal representation has advantages (and it is for these advantages that it was hawked) but it has also many disadvantages whose majority appear invisible to the members of the feminist currents themselves.

Advantages of the representation of the archetypal man

The use of the nuance passes the lapse of memory of all the formulas of the type: "all X are like that. As regards sexuality, it is obligatory to moderate if one does not want to say many stupid things.

The archetypal representation of the "stupid man" has for objector to protect a certain number of girls from the unverifiable desires of the men. This representation has, indeed, the "advantage" of describing rather well a certain category of men. For the latter indeed, sexuality is the principal heart of the concerns and the simple fact "of leaving" with a woman necessarily implies that the latter accepts, afterwards explicit summations or implicit psychological pressures, to accept many and frequent sexual "attacks" .

In this caricatural representation, it is the immense selfishness of the man who is described like monstrous, selfishness which perverts the sexual intercourse with the woman to make of it only one research of the satisfaction of the male pleasure, without consideration for the pleasure of the woman, but also without consideration for its pain, which is immensely more serious.

Problems involved in the archetypal representation of the man

We will expose two great types of problems which the women can have if they sufficiently interiorized the archetypal representation of the man like"assoiffe of sex".

The first great type of problem is the difficulty, for the majority of them, to recognize a different man. Because to interiorize the male caricature amounts projecting on all the men the phantom of sexual bestiality. It is thus an act which has as a nature to deform reality insofar as all the men are suspects to be "animals"

It results from it a chronic suspicion on behalf of certain women who are not able "to believe" only the man that they have opposite it does not wish only to use them like a sex object. This vision of the relations man woman can quickly pose a problem of stability of the relation, fact even of the woman and her erroneous vision of the man. Concretely, the latter will be on its guards, and will wait the moment when "the man reveals himself finally", generally to flee it. Of course, the following man, after the "beautiful phase" of the "beginning", will wake up, in it, the same type of behaviors of mistrust and often the same exit.

This relation with the man can easily turn to certain paranoiac waiting on behalf of the woman finally "to be deceived" and degraded, and a satisfaction with the being if by chance does it arrives (masochism). Generally, a sexual traumatism is responsible for this tendency to the deformation of reality (rape, incest, marital sexual violence's passed, etc).

The archetypal representation of the man as a assoiffee animal of sex is thus a convenient means for these women traumatized to project the evil which was made to them by projecting their fear on all the men. This behavior is a traditional feature of the "defense" of the neurosis which prefers to install mechanisms of escape instead of starting psychoanalytical work necessary to reabsorb the traumatism .

The second consequence of this archetypal sight of the bestial man is, it, much more pernicious, insofar as it is very widespread and strongly serves the women in the fact of assuming or of wanting to assume their pleasure.
Indeed, for much of women, the man is always in authority to become a assoiffée animal of sex (we will see some elements further from male libido to clarify this established fact). In a sense, these women took only the bad side of the feminist claim, in addition very legitimate in much of dimensions.

Behind this acquired behavior, one indicates notes of fatalism, of discouragement a priori, at the same time as for a presupposed nature of the man, and as for a devalorization of oneself seen like inevitable, and hidden by the sentences of "I cannot say to him not", "I cannot resist to him", or "I do not dare", "I will make him sorrow", etc the fear is, latent always there, a fear which can not be not in adequacy with reality.

This play distorts, of course, completely gives it between the two partners, going even, sometimes, until causing the appearance of abusive behaviors at the men themselves! While conditioning itself to give these prerogatives to the men, the women scorn themselves in the name of an archetypal representation of the sexuality in which the man is the caricatural monster. This position serves at the most point the woman who while positioning as a sex object, invites the man with use her body as a sex object. We are in full vicious circle.

One then finds women of which the representation of the man seems to date from last century and is made a priori obligatory mixture of respect, fear and sexual tender. If it is difficult for these women to leave their neurosis inherited to perceive a different reality, it is very complex for them to be authorized to have desire, and consequently, pleasure.

The femme fatale, negative prototype of the bestial man

A certain number of women believe to solve the vicious circle of a seemingly protective female conditioning but actually subjected, by making sexual higher bid, i.e. while wanting to play with the men on their own ground, that is to say the ground of the instrumentalisation of the other.

Let us note that this approach of sexuality is as neurotic as that of the man "animals of sex" .The femme fatale accepts the instrumentalisation of her own body under certain conditions, in particular when it subjects the men. Because, which it accepts, at the bottom, it is to be the first and the only one with instrumentaliser its own body for its own desires.

It is seen here that, far from being a "released woman" sexually speaking, it is a woman who interiorized so deeply the state of woman object who it is the first to be degraded with respect to itself. What one can wish of better with his wives is to fall in love with a man who refuses these plays of domination, even if it means to place the woman in front of her own contradictions.Most of the time intelligent, even cerebral, it can choose partners who are not too "dangerous", or whose capacity of resistance does not exceed its own capacities of domination. It generally endorses a very male libido in its regularity and replaces

Master in the relation man woman. One could wonder besides which type of orgasms the femme fatale can know, the female pleasure being more one pleasure obtained in a state of confidence, even of abandonment. In a state of domination, intellect is still too sharp to allow the abandonment the real power of the orgasm and a general way, with the rise of the pleasure. Thus, one can suspecter at the femme fatale of problems of the orgasmic type.T.


The schizophrenic man

We will be allocated to the men and will try to leave the extreme prototypes whom we have just seen, at the same time at the man and the woman. Because, it should be admitted, the male tendency (as female) to limit the relation man woman to a purely sexual relation (in the broad sense of the term) is, altogether, rather rare. We will note moreover than it does not correspond, in spite of what one could believe, with the prototype of the Gift Juan, on which we will return.

One finds rather, at most of the men, a quasi schizophrenic approach of sexuality. The man seems to oscillate between two states: "satisfied" and "in request". If the "satisfied" man is calm and has his own stable personality, the man "in lack of sex" seems to cover one second personality only focused on the continuation of his sexual desire.

The man "in lack" then seems "inhabited", "had" and the majority of the civilized behaviors that one usually notes at his place, seem to be reduced. Thus, the majority of the women know these strange behaviors of the man which want to say "make love" without the statement or with periphrases worthy of largest of imaginations.The majority of the women are often badly at ease in front of this male pressure, and it is enough that the woman interiorized this caricatural notion of the man so that it yields in advance of the man, believing herself forced, or "to give pleasure", or "because it is like that", or "because if not, he will not like me any more", etc the female pleasure being more complex than the male pleasure, the woman, in this aculeate situation, seldom takes pleasure, or at least takes a "basic" pleasure most of the time.

Male libido

The evolution of the libido of the man is rather simple in his general structure. According to the men, one could be interested in the concept of time limits, maximum time between two "ejaculations" in a perfect world, that is to say without strong external stimulation except his partner.

This time, except perfect world, depends on many factors, in particular the "external" excitations of consumption type of pornography. It during, generally (and under identical conditions), it would seem that each man has a rather regular time, even if one could note seasonal variations (spring, summer).

The male libido could be seen as a pressure which goes up in a pressure cooker. As soon as the pressure becomes sufficiently strong, the stopper of the casserole starts to turn and the man is in a state in which the sexual need becomes very present, often unconsciously besides. The majority of the men look at more the women in this state and go until detailing, often rather coarse manner, their anatomy more than they would usually do it.

When the man ejaculated after having made love (the capacity of the masturbation on sexual satisfaction appears less strong), the pressure cooker was opened, Re-filled of water and setting on fire. The pressure will take usual time to go up.

The incompatibility of the libidos

At the woman on the other hand, the cycle of the libido is copied on the menstrual cycle with a point of the libido around the periods of ovulations for the majority of the women. At the majority of them, the period of the rules is one period if not of "not libido" at least of strong reduction in the libido.One will be able to note that the two cycles of libidos of the man and the woman are not compatible a priori. That explains why the inattentive man with his partner will tend to project on his partner the regularity of his own sexual desires, being able to cause at it, a certain irritation. Indeed, the majority of the women being rather discrete as for their menstrual cycle, the rises and falls structural of the female libido can be interpreted wrongfully like a female inconsistency by the inattentive man.

Certain behaviors are to be in particular avoided that where, under the pressure of the libidinous man, the woman yields. The consequence of this behavior is to authorize the man, implicitly, to order in a unilateral way the sex act of the couple, authorization which becomes quickly, with time, a "right asset" of the man on the woman. Often unable to call into question this "right asset" built during the first months of the relation, the woman sees herself forced to undergo. If she loves the man, she will tend to simulate, if she discovers that she does not like it, she will leave it if she has sufficient energy or will remain in sexual misery in the contrary case.

These obligations turning quickly to the ritual, the libido of the woman can decrease until knowing a certain progressive insensitivity which can sometimes turn to the dislike. The sex act "obligatory" will become one day the great subject of rancor within the couple At will incorporate the dissatisfactions of like other.Of course, if the woman refuses all the time under the pressure of the libidinous man, it is the man who, one day, plugged by his sexual instincts, will tend to be will be attracted by other women. The literature is filled up of this kind of stories on which I will not be delayed.

All occurs like if the couple, during the prelude to the sexual intercourse were distributed the roles: the man having the role to ask and the woman having often the role to say "yes" or "not".

To find an area of agreement

Of course, it is necessary to find an area of agreement in the couple so that the sexual intercourse finds their place in largest and the most total agreement. It should be still said still and, the sexual intercourse especially within a framework of love between the two partners, should be a shared pleasure. If it is not the case and that some element comes to disturb this common pleasure, it is necessary to stop the act in order to draw with light what in order to will not make a shared pleasure of it.

That starts with the communication before the act, and if one needs it during the sex act itself. Before the act, logic would like that the libido of the woman controls the sexual intercourse, because the libido of the man being regular, if the man controls the sexual intercourse, it is likely to fall into a low phase from the female libido. However, the female pleasure being what it is, any pressure upstream of the sex act can show Nona pleasure at the woman - or at least a pleasure nonorgasmic.

The man must thus put the question of what it seeks: does it seek its own pleasure, its clean "right" by stimulating the unconscious female collective on the question of the "marital duty" or seeks it the shared pleasure? In the second case, it must let the woman be expressed.

Net the act in full medium. The game is worth the candle if there is a problem, in particular a faintness relating to the role, or any other "technical" point purely. It is not good a posteriori of debriefed to announce its pains sexual but them while they arrive, so that the man develops this sensitivity to the female pleasure.

This communication between the partners must be established in a great transparency and not in a substitute of communication. It is thus necessary to avoid simulations of listening resulting from an egoistic pleasure. Of course, the result of listening is the action even the modification of the behaviors. If the man can lose his "traditional sexual prerogatives there", it can gain a partner there.The communication in the sexual couple is very important because the sexual ground has that of private individual that bad experiments can be quickly traumatisantes. Obviously, young people are the victims, most serious are the traumatisms.

Moreover sexual traumatisms "often lock" other former traumatisms and worsen the infantile neuroses.Because, the majority of the people having had sexual intercourse traumatisantes remain the women (the sexual traumatism is indeed rarer among boys heterosexuals . The man penetrates, and the woman is penetrated, which explains why the distribution of the traumatisms. It is more traumatisant to be made penetrate to penetrate, and the men consuming of the pornography should remember some a little more often.

Elements on the female pleasure

The author not being a woman, we excuse ourselves from the start to have only one idea "external" of the female pleasure and not a lived experiment of the interior of this pleasure. Thus, we will make our not to better say too many silly things nor to try to say more than we do not think dementionner without risk good.

Contrary to the male pleasure, the female pleasure is a complex alchemy. The same woman, according to her interior state, her mood, her state of tiredness, stress, the moment of her cycle, etc, can react in a different way to the same stimuli. This observation is important for the men who consider that to make love is a shared pleasure. Indeed, even if the woman likes usually certain things or positions, it may be that the way of which she likes them is not the same one today as yesterday. It thus required there at the man to adapt to his partner who, if she can theoretically have several orgasms in the same sexual intercourse, would often like to have of them already one each time, which is far from being the case.

If a woman is too intellectual, it will generally need a longer preparation to make it leave an inevitable thought which comes "to look at and analyze" when the pleasure goes up and which tends to kill it. The cerebral woman does not like to lose control and it is often because of its fear of the man. The intellectual women and "controlling" thus have more often than the other women of the problems to reach the orgasm - if they ever reached it.

How to Pleasure a Woman - Hit Home Runs in Bed and Be an Absolute Stunner

Every man wants to know how to pleasure a woman in bed and satisfy her completely. It's very hard to pleasure a woman unless you know what she needs and wants in bed. Now such experience only comes with time spent with that specific woman. In this case it's always good to let the woman take over and have some control. Read what she is trying to do and try to give her the best of what she needs. Read on to discover some of the best kept secrets on how to pleasure a girl.

Talk dirty- Talking dirty is one of the best ways to pleasure a girl and get her ready for the main act. Women mostly tend to love naughty kinky talks but when it's within limits.

Discuss everything- Sometimes it tends to get into the awkward mode where you get an awkward feeling around someone. Women go through the same and it's extremely important to catch when they are actually going through this. Discuss what she prefers and how she likes it. Try to break all communication barriers and be open about this topic with her. There is absolutely nothing with talking about it with her. You want it and she wants it at the same time.

Transfer control- Women never feel pleasured unless they are given control occasionally. Make it a point to take control by turns and let her have her way once in a while. According to some males giving woman the control is like letting her take over. This has nothing to do with who controls whom rather all about pleasure. If you can't take turns you would never achieve optimum pleasure in bed.

Don't sleep- Most men tend to fall asleep instantly after sex. Women go through an emotional change the moment they orgasm. They feel the need to be more emotionally connected to you after sex. The best thing to do is to always pick a topic and talk about it. Don't let it be silent and don't go to sleep instantly.

How good are you in bed? - Do you have what it takes to satisfy women in bed? Do you know what every woman wants bed? Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite.

9 out of 10 Brit women take time out to pleasure themselves!

Nine out of ten women are taking time out to pleasure themselves, reveals a new UK research.

The Gossard Big M Survey quizzed more than 1,000 UK women aged 18-30 with an extensive questionnaire to find out all about their sexual attitudes, habits, fantasies and practices – and found that more ladies than ever are regularly taking time out for some solo action.

The survey, which clearly shows how women’s attitudes and practices have changed over the decades, found that two-thirds of Brit women admit to pleasuring themselves three times a week, with women in London finding the time for four sessions every seven days.

In the survey, 92 percent of women admitted to touching themselves this year, compares with only 74 per cent in 1979 and 62 per cent in 1953.

“It’s no wonder more and more women are self-pleasuring when you look at how liberated we’ve become in other areas of our lives and the shot of mood boosting hormones orgasm gives us,” the Sun quoted leading woman’s coach, Jessica Chiver, as saying.

“One of the best things about pleasing ourselves is that it gives us more confidence when we’re intimate with our partners - we communicate better and feel more satisfied which is good for everyone,” she added. (ANI)

Simple Things That Give Women Pleasure

Who would you go to for sex advice? Dr. Ruth, the yoda-like love-master who makes the thought of having sex about as fun as putting a puzzle together; or the real sex experts -those Player s who you rarely hear from because they're too busy making love to fashion models, co-workers, girls next door, and their girlfriend's best friend.

These are the All-Star Pros that most men should be asking for sex advice. Let me put it this way: For a football coach, would you rather get the volunteer high school gym teacher, or John Elway? Do you get my point? The best way to become a great lover is to mimic what great lovers do.
talk to god
We have to admit that the way a man looks has a lot to do with his chances of sleeping with a lot of women. But what really counts is how good he can use his tools to give her the ultimate orgasm. If you can make her talk to God ( "Oh God! Oh God!" ), then chances are that she'll be begging you for more sex than you can handle.

Most Players will admit that they were not born as female magnets, but learned the ropes through observation and practice. Once a Player is reputed for being a good lover, women fall at his feet trying to get a taste of sensual pleasures.
the key is observation
Much like myself, most good lovers share four common traits. The first thing they do is size up a woman's body through massage; the second thing involves asking the woman what pleases her most; the third consists of observing what stimuli she responds to through adult movies; and the final thing that good lovers do is observe a woman's scale of arousal.

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Begin with a massage
Each woman reacts differently to various stimuli. The sensations that a woman can experience from a man's touch will always vary. By massaging her whole body and observing her reactions, her sensitive areas will be unveiled, allowing for more pleasurable relations.

What women usually like while being massaged, are soft licks and touches in sensitive areas like the back of her neck and behind the ears, where the skin is very soft. The next time you give a woman a massage, add some variety and instead of simply rubbing her. Lightly run the tip of your fingers and tongue over the insides of her elbows, back of her knees, over her wrists, her nipples and between her thighs.

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Ask her what she likes
There are millions of sex experts in the world, but the best ones usually don't have a Ph.D. They're called "Women", and they're a lot more interesting to talk to than your average sexologist. Women experiment with their own bodies; they are more in tune with what satisfies and gratifies them . So the next time you're not sure if she's enjoying the experience, ask her what she likes instead.

# Watch adult movies
I'm not talking about adult movies that degrade women and are made for men, but rather movies made by lesbians for lesbians. During the act of lovemaking, women constantly look at each other's expressions to measure their level of enjoyment.

Do the same by paying attention to what a woman fancies. When you touch her in a way that she likes, keep doing it. Most men make the mistake of doing it too hard or too fast. Turn it up a notch only if she pushes her body against you, or if she moans the words "faster" or "harder" .

# Observe her arousal scale
Good sex occurs when partners on the same sexual wavelength. Not only is every woman different, but even the same woman is different from day to day. One day she may want it fast and hard, while the next day may require a more slow and soft approach. Therefore, you have to know what wave she is riding to make the experience pleasurable.

Take your cue from the way a woman flirts with you. If she's acting sensual, and caresses you gently, then you have to start slow and maintain a soft and romantic mood. However, if she comes on strong, then she probably wants crazy cat-like sex.

Great lovers don't memorize complicated techniques, they master the simple things that give women pleasure . How do they know what makes their woman go crazy and fantasize about them? Good lovers open their eyes and observe, observe, observe; and when they're unsure, they simply ask.

Awakening Your Inner Lover – “Experiencing Pleasure”

All experience is first created in the imagination as a reflection of our “mood” or state of mind. We create an inner experience that becomes the organizing factor of our outer experience. We create it on the inside, then project out onto our environment and create a corresponding expression through how we “emotionally interpret” things to give them meaning. The meaning forms the basis for the “type” experience we create as a result. This is the fundamental basis of “self-expression”. Our true creative ability lies in our capacity and skill for creating desired experiences. We do this primarily by first recognizing what “feeling” we are longing for, then placing our attention on that feeling, holding it in our mind’s eye, noticing what the sensation is in our body, and allowing a kind of story to emerge out of it as a natural expression that is allowed and uncensored. The story demonstrates what type of experience will give us that feeling. Feelings have whole stories inherent in them as part of their archetypal nature.

Our ability to not only imagine vividly, but experience fully comes by way of awakening our senses and using them to create intoxicating sensual experiences of a deeply erotic nature. We have to marry eros to logos, use the emotional quality to fill and activate the mental impression. Bring back our sensuality as a means of animating mental images with provocative qualities of being that excite and enliven us. Qualities, embodied and expressed sensuously enhance our ability to cultivate deeply gratifying states of erotic beauty while exercising our creative powers to first create our internal state, then express ourselves, while having the experience our own creation.

Because we live in a society that is largely left-brained, overly intellectual and addicted to technology, we often lack the emotional skills and awareness necessary to directly connect to and become apart of our environment. Our ability to feel fully present in our bodies while merging with our immediate experience has become dulled and unpracticed. This has resulted in the resigned, lack-luster society that endlessly indulges in mundane mediocrity and has settled into a lifeless existence that we call normal. We must retrain our minds to embrace our sensual nature and the pleasure that comes from learning how to increase our emotional energy that arouses our mind igniting our imagination with a sense of passion. When we become passionate thinkers, the life we create is intoxicating and erotic, vivid and seductive, relentlessly calling us on. No place is this ability more enriching than when we engage fully in the art of love-making.

So we begin by intentionally creating the experiences designed to awaken our senses and enliven our bodies with erotic sensations that arouse our soul to higher states of consciousness. Merging with the Beloved, becoming one with God, is symbolized by the experience of blending into another and loosing ourselves in euphoric states of eternal bliss. The experience of intense love that consumes the mind, body and emotions through a heightened and prolonged orgasm serves as a metaphor for the intense pleasure of merging back into and becoming one with our Creator. As above, so below, in our sexual experiences, like all of life, we are at once the creators, the creation itself, while having the experience of our creation. No place is this more evident than embracing the love of creating while seeking atonement of mind, body and spirit into the same act.

In order to do this we must retrain our mind and body to work in-sync and increase our ability to receive pleasure, give it and become one-with it. Like learning the skills necessary for becoming the creator of any art-form, we must develop the ability for heightened sensory experience, and the ability to cultivate and maintain deep forms of pleasure for prolonged periods of time.

Exercise for enhanced sensory pleasure of the body/mind:

• Decide on what type of experience you wish to create – either as an expression of your current mood, or by embodying the qualities necessary to “create” your mood.

• Create the proper ambiance for the “type” of experience desired so that it will unfold naturally. The environment that will elicit the same mood in your lover. This can be low lighting, candles, burning incense or potpourri, soft music, sexy attire or partial nudity, etc. (Think in terms of invoking as many senses as possible – visual, sound, smells, touch, taste, etc.)

• Create the proper setting or stage – arrange the bed, use soft blankets, or silky sheets, arrange a place on the floor, someplace where you have full access to their body, and they to yours.

• Have your lover put on a blind fold (removes distractions), and lay comfortably relaxed propped up by pillows. The visual aspect should be in what is being imagined through the other senses. Your lover has to fully receive the pleasure you are giving them, and their only response is in showing you what they like by moaning or moving their body (this way you get to know their pleasure zones).

• In using touch and feeling sensations, think of as many different forms of touch that you can that are all done with your body. Fingers, hands, nails, running your body along theirs, pressing with different intensities, using the tip of your tongue, whole tongue, tickling, licking and sucking, gentle biting, stroking with your hair, blowing on their skin, etc.

• Using sound intentionally as a form of expression, make a variety of sounds that match the touch. Soft lingering moans,, deep breathing, grunting, deep belly sounds, whispering sexy gestures, giggling, deep sighing, and whatever else feels right in the moment. Or match the touch to the rhythm of whatever music is playing.

• As you explore with your face and mouth, you take in all the smells and tastes. Become familiar with them. Associate them to your feelings of sexual arousal and how incredible it feels to give pleasure to your lover. Explore and taste all areas of their body while making sounds that express your pleasure.

• Then, after fully explored and consumed, switch roles, and start again.

Practice this, or experiences similar to this and it will allow your body to come alive, your emotions to soar, and your mind to feel the deep pervading sense of inner peace as the sweet afterglow of desire satisfied fully with deep feeling of love expressed with the body. The greatest healing power there is, is the energy directed through human touch while filled with deep feelings of love. While we tend to describe “human needs” in terms of physical survival, loving touch, energy infused with emotions of love and directed with intention, is the greatest healing power there is, and the primary “spiritual need” of our soul.

Female Attraction Secrets - What You Need to Create Female Attraction With a Woman by Desiree Coleman

It does not take a rocket scientist or a psychology degree to realize that men and women are attracted by different things. For a man, it's nearly all about physical appearance of a woman. For a woman, it has a LOT more to do with the personality of a guy to make her feel attraction. Female attraction is kind of a fuzzy area for a lot of men, and being able to trigger female attraction is a lot more fuzzy as well. However, there are some female attraction secrets that you can use to make a woman feel massively attracted to you.

And when you DO know how to make a woman feel this kind of attraction, then you can easily approach and attract women wherever you might go. Do not think that you have to possess certain physical looks or traits to be good at attracting women. Sometimes, the guys that lack the looks but have the personality will do better than the men that are blessed with attractive features.

Here are some female attraction secrets to make women feel massive and intense attraction for a man that you must make use of:

1. A woman has to see that a man is definitely an alpha male. This might be the most important secret to female pleasure. The alpha male is naturally what a woman wants, this goes down to a deeper, more instinctual level with a woman. In nature, it is the alpha male that becomes the prize for a woman, and you can become that alpha male that seems to drive her crazy even though she is unsure of why this is.

2. To make her want you, you have to deny her access. Think of it like this: when you know that there is something that is off limits to you, it will almost always make you feel as though you have to have it. Being able to make a woman feel like you are the kind of man that she is not guaranteed to get will make her see you as the man that she has to have.

3. A man has to be able to make a woman feel safe and secure. To make women feel like they are safe and secure with you, what you need to do is to make her think that she is protected. You don't have to be a beefcake to make her feel this way, but you do have to possess a certain air of confidence.

Myths about Female Sexuality

Myths about Female Pleasure
This section looks at a few of the myths that surround female sexuality. It includes questions you may want to reflect upon, whether you're male or female.

Myth: Women's sexual feeling are not as strong as men's.

Fact: Women's sexual feelings can be every bit as strong as men's. Their desire or drive for sex can be just as powerful and their sexual pleasure can be, as well.

A woman's clitoris contains as many nerves as the head of a man's penis, but in a much smaller area, so the sensations she feels there can be very intense. Some women also enjoy multiple orgasms, whereas this is less common among men.

Every woman is different, and it's also normal to have times when sexual feelings are very strong and other times when they're less so.

How has this myth about women's sexual feelings affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?


Myth: Women like it hard and fast.
Fact: In real life, women seldom complain about their partners not being hard and fast enough. They do, however, often comment that they'd like to feel more "connected" with their partners and they'd like more tenderness and slow, gentle touching all over their bodies.

This softer, slower style can also be extremely pleasurable for the man and take away the pressure to "perform."

As in all areas of sexuality, there are important differences among individuals and what a particular woman enjoys will normally vary from occasion to occasion. This is an important area where couples need to communicate.

How has this myth about what women want affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?

Myth: Most women don't masturbate.

Fact: According to most surveys, about two-thirds of women masturbate at some time in their lives. They may do so to relax, to get to sleep, and for various other reasons. They may engage in self-pleasuring whether or not they have a partner.

Most women who masturbate have orgasms through masturbation, and some research indicates that these orgasms tend to be more physically intense than those they have with a partner. This may be because the absence of a partner enables them to focus on their own pleasure.

Many women have their first orgasms through masturbation and then go on to have them with a partner as well. They may also incorporate self-pleasuring into sex with a partner.

How has this myth about self-pleasuring affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?

Myth: A woman needs to have an orgasm to feel satisfied.

Fact: Many women, whether they normally have orgasms or not, can be very satisfied without an orgasm. On the other hand, a woman who has an orgasm may be satisfied physically but not emotionally.

The best way to determine whether your partner is satisfied is to ask her how she's feeling and whether there's anything she needs or wants.

How has this myth about women's need for orgasms affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?

Myth: "Vaginal orgasms" are better than "clitoral orgasms."

Fact: This is a meaningless distinction, as the clitoris is always involved in triggering orgasms in women, even though a woman may experience orgasms that feel very different from each other.

We know that the clitoris extends much further into the body than originally thought, and this may be why women sometimes feel an orgasm in the vagina more strongly than in the glands or head of the clitoris.

In most cases the clitoris is not stimulated by vaginal penetration, so orgasm is much less likely to occur through intercourse than through stimulation with the hands or mouth.

Again, different women have different needs and preferences for stimulation. Discussion with your partner or showing your partner what you like can help him or her learn how to please you more.

How has this myth about orgasms affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?

Myth: When a woman says "no" she really means "maybe." You just need to pressure her more.

Fact: This is clearly not true. The law regarding sexual assault makes it very clear that to proceed in sexual activity without your partner's consent is a crime, whether your partner is male or female.

A full discussion of sexual assault is beyond the scope of this program; suffice it to say that it's important for both partners to communicate what they want and don't want. The "Communication" section of this program will help you learn how to do that.

If you have questions about sexual assault, call your local sexual assault centre or visit this web site: www.sace.ab.ca.

How has this myth about saying "no" affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?

The women's movement has encouraged a greater atmosphere of openness about women's sexuality than existed previously, but the myths we've mentioned here still have a powerful effect on women and men alike.

We would encourage you to be aware of the myths and try to determine what is true about sexuality and sex for you, examining and trusting your own values, feelings and experience. You may find it very beneficial if there is someone you can talk to about these things honestly and openly without fear of being judged.

Myth: Women like it hard and fast.

Fact: In real life, women seldom complain about their partners not being hard and fast enough. They do, however, often comment that they'd like to feel more "connected" with their partners and they'd like more tenderness and slow, gentle touching all over their bodies.

This softer, slower style can also be extremely pleasurable for the man and take away the pressure to "perform."

As in all areas of sexuality, there are important differences among individuals and what a particular woman enjoys will normally vary from occasion to occasion. This is an important area where couples need to communicate.

How has this myth about what women want affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?
Myth: Most women don't masturbate.

Fact: According to most surveys, about two-thirds of women masturbate at some time in their lives. They may do so to relax, to get to sleep, and for various other reasons. They may engage in self-pleasuring whether or not they have a partner.

Most women who masturbate have orgasms through masturbation, and some research indicates that these orgasms tend to be more physically intense than those they have with a partner. This may be because the absence of a partner enables them to focus on their own pleasure.

Many women have their first orgasms through masturbation and then go on to have them with a partner as well. They may also incorporate self-pleasuring into sex with a partner.

How has this myth about self-pleasuring affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?

Myth: A woman needs to have an orgasm to feel satisfied.
Fact: Many women, whether they normally have orgasms or not, can be very satisfied without an orgasm. On the other hand, a woman who has an orgasm may be satisfied physically but not emotionally.

The best way to determine whether your partner is satisfied is to ask her how she's feeling and whether there's anything she needs or wants.

How has this myth about women's need for orgasms affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?

Myth: "Vaginal orgasms" are better than "clitoral orgasms."
Fact: This is a meaningless distinction, as the clitoris is always involved in triggering orgasms in women, even though a woman may experience orgasms that feel very different from each other.

We know that the clitoris extends much further into the body than originally thought, and this may be why women sometimes feel an orgasm in the vagina more strongly than in the glands or head of the clitoris.

In most cases the clitoris is not stimulated by vaginal penetration, so orgasm is much less likely to occur through intercourse than through stimulation with the hands or mouth.

Again, different women have different needs and preferences for stimulation. Discussion with your partner or showing your partner what you like can help him or her learn how to please you more.

How has this myth about orgasms affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?
Myth: When a woman says "no" she really means "maybe." You just need to pressure her more.

Fact: This is clearly not true. The law regarding sexual assault makes it very clear that to proceed in sexual activity without your partner's consent is a crime, whether your partner is male or female.

A full discussion of sexual assault is beyond the scope of this program; suffice it to say that it's important for both partners to communicate what they want and don't want. The "Communication" section of this program will help you learn how to do that.

If you have questions about sexual assault, call your local sexual assault centre or visit this web site: www.sace.ab.ca.

How has this myth about saying "no" affected you? How do you feel about it after reading this section? What could you do to reduce this myth's impact on you?

The women's movement has encouraged a greater atmosphere of openness about women's sexuality than existed previously, but the myths we've mentioned here still have a powerful effect on women and men alike.

We would encourage you to be aware of the myths and try to determine what is true about sexuality and sex for you, examining and trusting your own values, feelings and experience. You may find it very beneficial if there is someone you can talk to about these things honestly and openly without fear of being judged.